The truth about cats and dogs
Or, about men and women.
Everyone knows men and women are different, this is nothing new. I have known it for a long time. But in the past weeks I have learned a new difference.
Parenting.
I am not trying to be mean or whiny, I am simply being honest.
Men have no idea about motherhood. Oh, they think they do, but they don’t.
My perfect man goes to work in the early morning and comes home around 6:00 pm. He hangs out, burps Atticus a few times and changes a few diapers untill about 9:30 and then he goes to the room to read and relax for a half an hour before he goes to sleep. He has no clue why this makes me cry.
I think he thinks I am staying home napping all day and eating bon bons.
When I tell him I just need to sleep a little, he says “well I have sleep apnea, I am tired to.” Excuse me while I get out the tissues for you.
I want to trade him for a day. I want to go to work and come home and hang out for a few hours and then go to sleep. I want him to stay home and feel what it is like to have your life completely change. I am want him to realize what it is like to not make money and not shower first thing and not be able to run to the grocery store at any time. I want him to realize what it is like to put someone elses needs first every minute of the day.
He can stay home and see what motherhood is really about. Because it is not just about taking care of Atticus, it is also about taking care of my perfect man.
It is about timing. Finding time actually. Finding time to cook and clean and do laundry. Finding time to go to the friggin bathroom.
I think guys experience a little change when a new baby comes home, but it is nothing compared to the woman.
Let me say again before ending this, that I am not unhappy about my role. I love Atticus more than anything and would never really trade my perfect man a day. Because I love being a mom.
But, sometimes I would like my perfect man to trade a brain with someone who gets why I cry about my lack of sleep and his lack of a clue.
I just spent like an hour reading all of your blog. i know so much about you now. i love it. chris is such a dork.
Words by OrdinaryGirl on October 18, 2006 at 8:47 am | #
I remember when you and your brothers were babies – and then I remember all my friends with babies. Dads just don’t realize how life changes for us – they still have their same bodies, same life style and they have a child so I guess they think everything must be the same for the Moms – could you imagine them actually having a baby? I don’t think any of them would live through it.
Words by Mom on October 24, 2006 at 4:47 pm | #