Flat Leaver.
I was checking my bloglines today. Checking out the Daily Kos, Romenesko, the lovely ladies at Girlspoke and of course one of my favortite gals, ThisFish.
Thisfish is a great writer, plus I love her cat’s name, Sir Hal. She had a good post and it made me think.
This is what she wrote.
“I’m a bad friend.� I said, after realizing I knew almost nothing that had happened over the last several months.
“No. You’re not.�
I shook my head and thought back to the time Justine stood up on the other side of the cubicle wall and accused me of being a ‘flat leaver.’
“I am not!�
The fact was, it was first time I’d ever heard the phrase and I had no idea what it meant. So in my ignorance and secret desire to be European, I assumed it had something to do with apartments. And who the hell was she to judge me and… my apartment?
Turns out, it meant that I was the kind of person who left my friends the moment I found something better.
“I am not!�
Justine then presented some hard evidence. She named names. Or a name, rather. I countered that I was just bad at multitasking, that I am easily distracted by shiny things, and that the friend in question was dangerously stupid and had to be unfriended for everyone’s health and safety. She reluctantly agreed. Fine, you are not a flat leaver.
(Good thing she didn’t bring up God. ‘Cause when I left the Almighty for a life of sin, well, I was guilty of flat-leaving for sure.)
Why did this make me think? Cause I have been a leaver, not a flat leaver. But I had a friend once. I still love her deep, deep, down, but we just couldn’t be friends anymore. She was messed up or had issues or something. Too much anger maybe. Sometimes we have to be leavers. We have to do what is best for our own lives, sometimes that means kicking the toxic person out of our lives.
I still think about this person. Certain times of the year, when I hear different songs on the radio. I miss her, but we could probably never be friends like we were. Too much has changed, probably in both our lives.
On a totally different note. Cowpunk, what is with you? Where have you been? I miss your random sometimes annoying comments. Did I hurt your feelings? A real cowboy could take it.
every body has to make this decision in their life I know for a fact anyone who reads this has had a friend or friends they have had to part ways with for varios different reasons it is just part of life as long as you keep in touch with family and the truly good friends it doesn’t matter anyone remeber Ray this is a perfect example. those who knew him know what im talkin bout
Words by glenn on March 13, 2006 at 5:32 pm | #
Ray was a toxic person I never should have let in my life in the first place.
Words by Jaime on March 14, 2006 at 2:03 pm | #
don’t be offened by what i wrote i was freinds with him before you were
Words by glenn on March 14, 2006 at 5:19 pm | #
And sometimes we just learn from the ones we had to leave behind – don’t beat yourself up just learn from the relationship
Words by Nancy on March 16, 2006 at 5:49 pm | #