Am I a good friend?
What is a good friend? I have been asking myself that a lot lately.
I know who my good friends are. I think I am good to them. The ones from home. The ones I know I can count on. I am pretty sure they know they can count on me.
But what about the ones from here. The new ones. What do I do when I know one of them is in trouble.
If it was a friend from home, I would probably get involved and try to help in anyway possible.
But, here, I have a friend and she is in big trouble, but she refuses to see it or do anything about it. I think she is in serious danger, but I don’t think there is anything that I can do about it. I have told her that I think she is in danger. I have told her she needs to leave her man now. For her sake and her kids. But she won’t.
So, what else can I do? Her mom knows her situation, so do all of her other friends.
I am getting to the point though, and this is where I kind of feel bad, that I don’t even want to hear anymore. I don’t want to listen to her talk about how bad it is. I don’t want to see anymore tears.
I just want to wash my hands and say don’t call anymore. You can’t count on me to listen and sympathize.
I am running out of sympathy. Now, I feel like she is just being stupid and selfish. Selfish because she stays, because she thinks maybe somewhere he loves her and will act like it again. She is waiting to have him meet her needs, when she should be focusing on her kids needs and get them the hell out of there.
I don’t know. What can a person do?
Being a good freind is hard. Especially when you see someone in trouble and they won’t listen to you. But I think that the whole idea of being a good freind is being there when it gets hard.
It takes some people longer to figure stuff out, but the good friend will stay there and listen to the sad sad story and see the tears flow.
A good freind will sit through all the crap.
A great friend, though, will say they are tired of it and tell their sad sad friend that its time to grow up and move on and if she is willing to do that then a great freind will be there for the shit that follows.
We all lose our patience, but the tricky part is not losing our compassion. If I was you, I’d tell her straight out and tell her you will be there if she wants to make the big move, if she doens’t thats fine. Just pray that she gets the courgae eventually. It’s ok to to be there for someone, but she really can’t expect to drag you down with her.
Words by Luella on December 4, 2006 at 1:49 pm | #
Luella is a wize woman - should follow her advice
Words by Nancy on December 8, 2006 at 11:53 am | #